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Monday, 19 January 2015

Are You A Wall Flower?

Remember the days? Those high school dances? –Sitting on the sidelines waiting for some dashing young man to ask you to dance? Maybe this was not you. Perhaps you were up dancing the entire evening and never were a “wall flower”.

What do you think the difference was between the “dancers” and the “wall flowers”?

Was it a bubbly personality? Was it something to do with being more attractive? Perhaps it was being a great dancer?

Well, if they received more dance invitations because they were great dancers…makes sense…they had more practice! Know what? It wasn’t because they were more attractive. It wasn’t because they were great conversationalists. No matter how we look at it, it all boiled down to how the gals made the guys feel!

Have you ever thought about that? How do you make people feel when they are around you? Do you leave them feeling better about themselves? This is what social media is all about. It is all about “them” not about “you”.

When you connect with someone, do you actually send them a message thanking them for joining your network? Do you ask them how you can help them in some way, either through your network, or yourself? Do you ask them to share more about themselves…what inspired them to do what they do?

Building online relationships is the same as what we do in a live networking event.

Have you connected with someone online and then received a 2 page expose’ about what they do and how they do it, and if you sign up today, you get their super special offer…and on and on it goes.

How did that make you feel? Did you feel like you were just slapped in the face?

People will buy into your “why” and “who you are” long before they will buy into your “how & what”.

So as you reflect back to being a “wall Flower”. How did you make the guys feel when they finally mustered up the courage to ask you for that long awaited dance? Were you so wrapped up in yourself and your own nervousness that you barely smiled or said a peep? 

How did you make the guys feel…really?

Conversely with your social media…how do you make your connections feel when they muster up the courage to trust you enough to click “connect”?

Know what the big secret is to your success with online marketing of any sort? It’s bring the connection from the online relationship to a face-to-face. Face-to-face is where real business gets done. Social media is your means to an end.

Watch for more of my story in “Do You Like Sales?”.

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Got a LinkedIn question? Feel free to email me and I will answer it in my next blog.
Christine Till
The LinkedIn Marketing Mentress

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