Wednesday 19 April 2017

MM Tip 23 - Do you ever feel like you are not enough?

Do you feel like no matter what or how much you do, you will never be all that you need to be?

Are you one of those people who just keeps working harder and harder trying to be better than you feel you are?

Are you getting any closer to feeling like you are more?

As a business mentor, I often hear comments from people who are struggling with some inner voices day in and day out. These voices are telling them that they are never going to be good enough...that they will never be "enough".

I am reminded of an interview in Opra Winfrey's magazine with Barbara Streisand. When Barbara said that she has always felt like she was never enough, I about fell out of my chair! Barbara Streisand, the wonderfully talented and one of the biggest and best actresses and performers of all time, feels like she is never enough!!! How could this be?

As I have met with many business women and women who are casual acquaintances and friends, I have heard this reiterated many times. Most women feel like they are not enough.
Why is that? Is it something we are born with, or is it something to do with the way we are raised? Or is it just something that we all, both men and women experience with the little voice in our heads telling us that we all are never good enough?

It is my humble opinion that we are all susceptible to these negative voices. It is part of what we have to overcome in this life here on earth. Overcoming these voices in our heads is part of what makes us strong from within and helps us to move forward to become more than we thought we could be.

It is up to us to make the decision to ignore the negative voices in our heads and fill our heads with positive thoughts. Stop watching horror movies and negative things on "the box" and the internet. Search for all that is good, wholesome and uplifting. Avoid anything that pulls you down into the depths of darkness. You will never overcome your "voices in your head" until you change the things you do every day.

Set yourself up with a routine of positives from the beginning of your day. Rise, eat a good breakfast, exercise, meditate/pray, visualize all the wonderful things you are thankful for that day. It can be as simple as being thankful that you have stockings without holes in them.

My mother taught me a great lesson as a child. She had six children and had to cook for up to 15 people depending on what time of year it was on the ranch. She did all the laundry and patching and darning for all the family and the hired men. She had no time to deal with a grouchy face first thing in the morning. So if one of us children came to the breakfast table with a grouchy face, we were sent directly to our room to find our smile. Once we found our smile, we were allowed back at the breakfast table.

Thus I learned that it is a decision to listen to the negative voices in my head or the positive ones. I soon learned that it felt much better when I listened to the positive voices. I learned that it is a decision I must make every day. My positive feelings did not just happen. I had to make a conscious decision to choose the positives.

Are you just letting yourself drift into your day without any routines or conscious thought as to what impact your decisions will have on your successes that day?

Try getting yourself on a schedule of routines and positive thoughts and follow it for a month. You will be amazed at the changes that will occur within you.

Remember, you cannot control what others decide to do. You are the only one you can control.

I would love to hear your thoughts and questions.

Make it an awesome day!

Christine Till

The Marketing Mentress


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